Your heart has more nuanced settings than “broken” or “healed”. There are spaces we occupy as we move through the fascinating and beneficial experience of heartbreak recovery.
In this series exploring each of the 7 Houses of Heartbreak, Danette introduces Heartbreak House One: Shatter + Shock.
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Sometimes ALL THE THINGS happen at once and you stop trying to keep track of how long you’ve been managing obstacles. You’re breaking patterns and making changes and sometimes these things take time. It is easy to lose sight of where we are hoping to be when we get through it all.
In this episode, Danette invites you to imagine the hope that might be just around the corner – what will you do with your hands when you aren’t busy holding everything together? What is the benefit of learning how to play a slightly warped guitar? What Toronto diner did Tom Cruise kneel in front of in the film Cocktail? How are these things relevant? Excellent question.
This is for anyone who wants reminders that wonderful things can happen, and tiny acts of self care can be the way you train for your next big evolution.
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Sometimes we come to a self-love reckoning exactly when it feels like we have no one. While this coming home moment is beautiful, in the moment it can sometimes be pretty tough.
What do you do when it seems the only resource you have is yourself?
In this episode, Danette discusses the art of collecting mentors who have no idea who you are. Leading by example, she flirts with David Lynch, has a good laugh, and shares one of her favourite tools from Austin Kleon’s book Steal Like an Artist. What would your self love practices look like if Missy Elliot and Mary Oliver were your co-collaborators?
It’s a pep talk for anyone feeling like the road to self love and healing is a little lonely. You already have everything you need.
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A lot of folks will be talking about hearts today but Danette is talking about brains! Specifically, how her Valentine’s Day concussion has re-aligned her with the path she was always wanting to be on.
You don’t need to have a concussion to enjoy this episode. In fact, this is a call for you to reap the benefits of Danette’s concussion and make the radical changes you desire before the universe finds a way to knock it into you.
Perhaps it is time for a spontaneous self-engagement?
That is what Danette did on Valentine’s Day in 2001.
Valentine’s Day: one of the best days to reinvent for YOU.
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Before you marry yourself, you might want to try dating and see how it goes, right? Even if you are already married to yourself, making time for date nights is one of the ways you can keep your relationship feeling alive and yes – spark some romance.
But how does one go about taking themselves out on a date?
Danette answers your questions, dishes on some of her own dating stories and gives you a step-by-step practice to get this party-for-one started.
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Get ready to toot your own horn! Do you frequently downplay your contributions or swat away compliments? If you feel like you haven’t done anything worth celebrating, listen up. There might be more to your story.
In this episode, Danette models tooting her own horn and tells the story of how her Nonna Francesca woke up to this simple yet powerful self love practice while playing the mandolin. Also – who knew you could get self love inspiration from your bank? You can. Find out why giving yourself credit is important, and learn the simple two-word tip on how to begin building your own self love credit right now.
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We all have those moments. The moments where something had to give. Something came to a head. Something cracked open. Enough. And we changed.
It’s not usually a New Year’s resolution. It’s a force much bigger than that.
This episode is for anyone who needs reminding that you have in fact, been blooming and cracking open from the moment you were born. And you can do it again. But what is it going to take?
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Danette asked what you most needed to hear on The Soft Shoulder over the holidays and there was certainly a theme:
Family. Family who doesn’t get it. How can I be myself with my family who doesn’t get it? How do I get through this?
That means, all of you who were feeling alone in this struggle – you’re not alone!
In this episode, Danette offers perspective and practical tips for surviving your family event, without changing any of your family members. Because guess what – you can’t change other people!
But you can use your imagination and you can decide where you will sleep. You can choose what you are available for. And most importantly, you can be compassionate with yourself – even more than usual.
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It’s Danette’s birthday!
That means today she’ll be somewhere alone, enjoying a coffee and opening up the letter she wrote to herself last year. It is one of her favourite self love practices and today she invites you to join her – no matter when your birthday is.
The Birthday Letter Ritual is a practical and magical way to capture your own life in a romantic bundle of letters. It can also be a profoundly beautiful practice to honour the fullness of life’s twists and dreams. In this episode, Danette shares her process, a few tips and most importantly, where you can download the special Birthday Letter Ritual guidebook she made just for you.
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Have you ever been given an apology that somehow didn’t feel right?
Well it turns out apologies are the kinds of gifts where some assembly is required! Chances are you were given an apology that had some pieces missing.
Just in time for the holidays, Danette helps you assemble your own apologies so you can feel good about giving from a wholehearted place. Listen in for an excellent book recommendation, for permission to not forgive everyone who apologizes, and tips on how you can make sure you identify and deliver apologies that land integrity and love.
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